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Benefits Of Marrying A Virgin

on March 20, 2012

It is also recommended that she be a virgin because a virgin is more loving towards her husband. Furthermore, she would safeguard the rights of her husband more and be more pleasant to him.

In a hadeeth, the Prophet (saw) said to Jaabir (ra):

Why didn’t you marry a virgin, so you may play with her and she may play with you (and you may make her laugh and she may make you laugh)?” [Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Thus, the Shariah encourages the marriage of virgins. As far as those who have been married before and become single (either because she got divorced or became widowed) and those who are not virgins, then they are not pleased with little because they have already experienced men as opposed to the virgins. Thus, virgins are pleased more easier than those who are not virgins.

[Taken from “The Prophet (saw) At Home” by Shaykh Muhammad Moosaa Nasr, p.14]

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10 responses to “Benefits Of Marrying A Virgin

  1. Jamilahamir says:

    Brother.. why didn’t you post the full hadith? The full hadith paints a different picture.. There are many reasons for loving older women.. and in fact our Prophet SAW only married two virgins and the rest were widows.. who were clearly not virgins.

    Jabir was hurrying home to be with her.. clearly he felt this lady could play with the young daughters who had come into his care and the Prophet asked blessing on him for it

    It was narrated that Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “My father died, leaving seven – or nine – daughters, and I married a previously-married woman. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked, ‘Did you get married, O Jaabir?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘A virgin or a previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young girl whom you could play with and she could play with you, and you could laugh with her and she could laugh with you?’ I told him that ‘Abd-Allaah had died and left behind daughters, and I did not want to bring to them someone like them. So I had married a woman who could take care of them and discipline them. He said, ‘May Allaah bless you,’ or similar kind words.”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5052)

    in Muslim the same story adds

    It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked me, ‘Have you got married?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘A virgin or a previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young girl, whom you could play with and she could play with you?’ I said, ‘I have sisters and I wanted to marry a woman who could gather them together and comb their hair and take care of them.’ He said: ‘You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son).’”

    (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1991; Muslim, 715)

    Whilst there are reasons to marry a young wife, there are good reasons to marry a previously married woman.. and clearly to focus on one and not the other puts the picture out of balance.

    May Allah SWT forgive me for anything that is said that is not true.. ameen.

    I encourage you to read

    http://islamqa.info/en/ref/9126

  2. franco berluchini says:

    Assalaamu alaikum,

    my brother, this is a benefit taken from a hadith by a scholar, not the guy who runs this blog, but a scholar……… may Allah reward you for placing the entire hadith, but if you search the understanding of the hadtih according to the majority this same principal is evident.

    now to add… from my personal experience it is 100 percent correct also. before Islam was blessed on me i knew this and after Allah guided me, i have seen this myslef again, within the grounds of a marriage partner.

    In support of what you say however, a woman who already has a child is being herself more than a virgin. as when the virgin lady has a child………… her world, mentality and priorities change…. a woman who is already a mother will be pretty much the same as she has already gone through that change. that way you know what your gonna get better i guess.

    anyway, i am just an opinionator on this one,

    May Allah guide and forgive us all ameen

  3. Virgins-Only-Marrying-Mujahid says:

    The reason why marrying a virgin is better is many reasons other than Islamic logic. Doesn’t matter how much love you show your non-virgin bride, she’ll always remember the man who took away her virginity or previously had sex with her(divorcees, widowers, fornicators). As for fornicatress woman or ex-fornicatress woman, for the fact that she had sex with one or more guys before you, what makes you think after she’s been with many men, she’ll only be loyal to you, because women like that are more likely to cheat & not used to being with one guy. I’ve tons of more reasons, but therefore virgin women are better. straight up.

    • Muslimah says:

      SubanAllaah I don’t agree..

      Personal but…I’m not a virgin and when I was married I never ever thought about the guy I first slept with, the only person I thought about was my husband.
      Even when I in shaa Allaah marry again, I wont ever think about my ex husband either.
      So thats an unfair comment.
      Also, a fornicatress is not necessarily a cheat..or hasn’t necessarily been with ‘many men’ as you stated. She could have had a illicit relationship with one man and been loyal to him.
      In your opinion marrying a virgin is better, and your entitled to that, but it’s not the general statistic, because many would disagree with you.

      Allahu Slim

      • Virgins-Only-Marrying-Mujahid says:

        Well I never said to agree. And what is sad, that you women don’t realize that as long as you don’t put out before marriage, no guy out there will fornicate, because if you don’t put out, that means the only thing a guy will do is rape. And that too is punishable by imprisonment in western countries or death in muslim countries. Statistics prove that marriages will last longest with a woman who has 0 to 1 partner, but dillusional women like you will never understand. Plus I don’t believe in paying maher to 2nd hand women meaning fornicatoresses. Divorcees, Widowers, Rape victims are exception, because it’s not their fault. Don’t you women ever think about what goes through men, who have saved themselves and maher money just for one woman to marry, and that woman herself has an history of promiscuity. SAY NO TO 2ND HAND WOMEN!

        • ahmed says:

          Assalam Alaikum brother. I have to agree with you. I am currently in this situation. I want to marry this girl but her history is what is holding me back. This brother is exactly right this is how I feel. These kind of women do not get it.

        • dream_on says:

          2nd hand women? so were most of the ummul mu’mineen mere 2nd hand women to you (considering that they were previously married)?

          Some men are just ignorant and stupid. May Allah protect the Muslim women from you. ameen

          you clearly have no respect for women and see them as your property. how sick

          • dream_on says:

            I retract my previous statement since I read your comment to mean divorcees but now I see u were simply talking about those who commit zina.

          • Buck Finster says:

            Any man who marries a woman where the first man she was ever with is still alive adulterates the Image of God by being with her and God will not hold such a man guiltless

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