The prophet (saw) said:
“Allaah is gentle and loves gentleness in all matters.” [Bukhaaree]
He (saw) also said:
“Shall I not tell you who will be forbidden from the fire, or from whom the fire will be forbidden? It will be forbidden for every gentle, soft-hearted and kind person.” [Tirmidhee]
Umm Salamah states:
“From cruelty and injustice is that the man comes to the first meeting with this poor woman and he only thinks about deflowering her and satisfying his desires. This action amounts to one of the strongest reasons for her dislike towards him until this dislike stretches for a very long time. What is it that prevents the Muslim man from coming to his wife by way of a nice word, or joking and playing with her?
Verily that is more appropriate in that it brings the two hearts together and facilitates mercy and compassion between them, and we have in the Messenger of Allaah (saw) a good example.”
[Taken from “Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women” By Umm Salamah, p. 102]